And the power of what is not.
While we did talk about unconditional love before, like true awareness it is only consciously experienced for a very short moment if at all. Yes, people know the word Love and often use it in relation with others, but for most, and I mean 99% it is a conditional thing, and therefore not love at all. When someone is not physically close to the other they miss them, but how could they if their heart is filled with love? What they miss is really the conditional part, what they get in return of what they give. Missing therefore is a kind of selfishness.
What this feeling of missing feeds the mind with, often causes this feeling to become stronger and leads you further away from love. How this is so we will talk about further down this article and first bring up something many also find difficult to understand, inherited sin. Let’s go back to missing again. If expressed to the person it gives a false sense of value and feeds ego on a subconscious level, it gives more value to the physical, more dependency, while in doing so we consider it an expression of love.
While many realise that having children means taking on a big responsibility, they do not realise that in the first years of a child’s life its feeling /emotional body picks up what becomes the basis upon which the mental body develops, and because these experiences of feelings to which they are very sensitive are not mentally translated/reasoned they will remain and settle deep within the subconscious and cause the pathways upon which the mental body develops.
These impure feelings have no sense of right or wrong and are a little like google links for words, it seeks similar and uses all sense receptors to do so and eventually the mental body becomes its slave too. Let’s for instance take fear, it will see reasons to fear where there is no reason at all, this then is added to the mental storage and connected to the feeling body and becomes a search string that continuously scans through the sense receptors to feed itself.
So if you wish to give your children the best of what life has to offer, then consider these things above all else, otherwise they inherit from you the suffering you went through and perhaps even more. The psychologist Maslow saw human being’s needs arranged like a ladder. The most basic needs, at the bottom, were physical — air, water, food, sleep. Then came safety needs — security, stability — followed by psychological, or social needs — for belonging, love, acceptance. Then, came esteem needs — to feel achievement, status, responsibility, and reputation. At the top of it all were the self-actualizing needs — the need to fulfil oneself, to become all that one is capable of becoming. Maslow felt that unfulfilled needs lower on the ladder would inhibit the person from climbing to the next step. Someone dying of thirst quickly forgets their thirst when they have no oxygen, as he pointed out. People who dealt in managing the higher needs were what he called self-actualizing people.
Benedict and Wertheimer were Maslow’s models of self-actualization, from which he generalized that, among other characteristics, self-actualizing people tend to focus on problems outside of themselves, have a clear sense of what is true and what is phony, are spontaneous and creative, and are not bound too strictly by social conventions.
Peak experiences are profound moments of love, understanding, happiness, or rapture, when a person feels more whole, alive, self-sufficient and yet a part of the world, more aware of truth, justice, harmony, goodness, and so on. Self-actualizing people have many such peak experiences.
Maslow’s thinking was surprisingly original, most psychology before him had been concerned with the abnormal and the ill. He wanted to know what constituted positive mental health. While in part true, love is the big one, it has been proven that while you can feed a baby, when it is totally deprived of any affection they die.
And psychology has shown that a very high percentage of children born healthy but did grow up with a lack of affection end up mentally disabled and some to a point that they cannot function in society. One of the tell-tale signs is for instance the inability to see cause and effect, they can watch a film, see all the details but do not see the storyline, perhaps you are able to recognize this in yourselves to some extent, you remember your dreams, particularly the details but never really figure out what the dream tells you, let alone what life shows you behind the so called stage props, and the very reason why mankind is still searching for the answers, a lack of love, not of getting but of opening up to it. When I say a mother’s love for her child that goes to a point of selfless giving is closer to what love is but it is a narrow path and all too often stepped off of .
The Abraham Maslow hierarchy of need theory was later adapted to include a greater complexity in the area of self-actualisation. Under this adaptation human needs included a thirst for knowledge and a need for aesthetical order and beauty prior to self-actualization and a “Transcendence” need beyond self-actualization where people would feel a need to help others to find fulfilment. Now let’s see how far you have opened up to this Love, if you can and did, then not only do you recognize the story of Adam and Eve, but also the Love of God and inherited sin.
Moshiya van den Broek